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Building Positivity in Your Marriage

Posted at 3:19 PM, Jan 30, 2018

Relationships can be hard, but thankfully there are some experts out there to help us out.

Naomi Brower is an Associate Professor at Utah State University -- Extension and has the keys to building unity, friendship, and positivity in a marriage. Check them out below!

  • Maintain awareness of your partner`s world. Keep updated on your partner`s current dreams, worries, views on life, etc. by asking open-ended questions. The more that you know and understand each other the more that you can stay connected.
  • Nurture fondness and admiration. All of us have an emotional bank account and need more deposits than withdrawals. Aim for 5 positive comments to every 1 negative comment. Ways to add deposits: genuine compliments, words of appreciation, small gifts, service, time together, think positive thoughts (positive thoughts lead to positive actions), etc.
  • Turn toward each other instead of away. All of us give and receive invitations to connect every day. Any time we receive these bids we have a choice in how to respond. Choosing to respond positively to these bids for connection builds our connection. Being aware of each other`s needs and being helpful to each other on a daily basis will do more for the strength and passion of marriage than a two-week getaway.
  • Look for ways to strengthen your relationship. Look for opportunities to reflect on your relationship and develop skills to keep your relationships strong such as reading a healthy relationship book/articles together or attending a healthy relationship event such as the Date Your Mate or Northern Utah Marriage Relationship (info below).

Feb. 9th - Date Your Mate Marriage Conference at the Viridian Event Center in West Jordan from 6-9:30

Feb 16th  - Northern Utah Marriage Celebration at Weber State University from 6-9:30

Info can be found at